You can't hold it; you need to pee. So you find a public restroom. Maybe you have to wait until everyone else leaves the restroom before you can finally empty your bladder. Maybe you have to just give up and leave, unsatisfied and anxious about your failure to fulfill a basic bodily function no one else seemed to have trouble with.
Ejaculation is a powerful bodily experience that has long been associated with penises and male sexuality. But ejaculation from the vulva or vagina can also happen—before, during, after, or without orgasm. Squirting is just one part of that. During sex, some people with vulvas experience the involuntary emission of fluid. Accurate information and conversation about the sexual realities of female-assigned folks—whose bodies are still often subject to myth and mystery—is fantastic. That creates a lot of unnecessary pressure! It seems that we have been ejaculating for a long time.
Shivering is an involuntary response to coldness. This tightening and relaxing of muscles in quick succession causes a slight bodily shake or tremble. This momentary cold sensation or cold jolt can rip through your body unexpectedly — sometimes starting in the spine and moving downward.
Any number of things might run through your mind during sex—and hopefully all of them are a version of "this is amazing. But every now and then—in addition to random thoughts, like "did I remember to turn the oven off? Mood killer, amiright?