Images by Ashley Goodall. There are lots of milestones separating adolescence from adulthood, but few carry the same gravity as sex. Losing your virginity feels significant because it affirms how you feel about others, but also, crucially, how you feel about yourself. And for people who are transitioning, a first post-op sexual encounter can be even more about self-discovery, with ramifications that can be life changing. Here, three people describe in their own words their first intimate experience after gender affirmation surgery. All have been lightly edited for brevity and clarity and just a warning, a following story contains references to sexual assault.
Lee Harries was born Debbie Karemer but after years of struggling with his sexual identity — he asked for gender reassignment aged The now year-old claims he began private testosterone treatment one day later and had his breasts removed after just three months — starting an year journey to become a man. Mr Harries said he is speaking out about gender reassignment reversal in a bid to encourage others to seek talking therapy before surgery. He said he should never have been allowed to transition — claiming his dissatisfaction with his female body stems from sexual abuse. I just regret the decision. At the time it was a state of mind no body really spoke about. Mr Harries said the first step towards his realisation was when he approached the police in , to report the abuse at the hands of his father.
For most cisgender straight people, the first time they have sex makes a relative degree of sense to them. They identify with the gender they were assigned, so sex feels mostly natural and comfortable. For transgender or genderqueer people, however, this comfort is often lacking in their first sexual experiences.
The feeling of incongruence between phenotypic sex and psychological recognition of self-gender is termed gender dysphoria. Transsexualism is the most extreme form of this disorder. The aims and objectives of the study are to evaluate the esthetic and functional outcome of embryonic equivalents-based male-to-female sex reassignment surgery in transwomen using the institutional scoring system.