Sex columnist Anka Radakovich explains how to give your partner great oral sex and have her coming back for more. What do women really want? As a single, hetero woman, I have been with men who ranged from the one who had no idea what he doing downtown to another who was so skilled that I put a framed photo of his tongue on my desk. With just a few simple techniques, you can easily become a cunning linguist. Before you even start, giving a woman an orgasm comes down to one thing; the clitoris. It just wants to be rubbed.
Starting at the bottom of her labia, use your tongue to lick upward toward her clitoris. Go slow—if you go too fast, she may become too sensitive or not experience as much pleasure as she possibly can. Once you hit her clit, lick back down the other side of her labia. Keep moving up and down like this, and experiment with both your breath and speed. Start off by separating her vaginal lips with your tongue, and use as little pressure as possible.
Skip navigation! Story from Sex. The only thing more satisfying than being on the receiving end of great oral sex is knowing that you did a great job performing it on your partner. To give is to receive, if you will.