I yawned, rolling away from my bedroom window and the streams of light making it impossible to sleep. My alarm clock read a. I had an hour before I needed to get ready for church. I crossed the room to my dimly lit closet and rummaged though my secret stash of paperbacks until I found the cover that showed a wild—eyed, barely dressed couple clinging to each other. After flipping through several chapters, I turned to a graphic sex scene.
I wanted to get a diversity of perspectives in response to this question, so I contacted several folks whose opinion on matters related to sexuality I respect, and asked them this question:. I hope you learn as much from them as I did! Abigail Rine teaches literature and gender studies at George Fox University. Find her at Mama Unabridged or on Twitter. I think that masturbation can absolutely be a healthy part of both married and unmarried sexuality. I think masturbation can be an excellent way for individual women to learn the uniqueness of their bodies and how they experience pleasure, which can then be communicated to a spouse. For the first time, I began to dread and fear having sex with my husband, which was incredibly disconcerting.
I have stopped from doing it for about 3 weeks now but I fell attemped every day. Is this a sin? How can I control it? On the positive side, the Bible has lots to say about the goodness of sex. However sex is for marriage, and works to bind a husband and wife together in a profound way.
Because my job is to talk to women about sex, there are few questions that I haven't heard and haven't answered. However, there is one common question that I don't like to answer. It involves the "M" word—masturbation. One of the reasons I dread this question is because there is no clear answer. I could take the easy road and just say, "If in doubt, don't do it.